Women should get married after 30 or before 30

I came across some article lately, it caught my eyes when i read them. Interestingly this two separates article kept me so awake the whole week long.

Believe it or not, in my opinion marrying after 30. Joy Chen a famous author of the latest china book called Get married after 30, have given me the summary of what life is all about. With her inspiring write up in English, I could not wait any longer for the English book to be publish.

Common question among society have create the pressure of relationship, where once a boy and a girl can be good friend and best friends. Now it derive from the origins of the simplicity of innocent relationship. I come from a Chinese family with English speaking home background, nevertheless my mum and dad will have the ideology of themselves in seeing me marrying someone same race. Now here is the big question mark for me which I am 24 years old only.

1) Do they see beyond the race if that guy were perfect for me?
2) Same race being life long partner, how on earth does it linked to for me and my future partner to build a home without chemistry but just the matter of SAME RACE?
3) Curiosity driven even more, when I question myself, can I settle with a guy with what my mum and Parents like instead of someone that I choose that have the same wave length of Understanding?
4) When I question back, Mum do you mean all same race people are good? Her answer was most of them are far much better than the Not Same Race. How could that be when she don't even take her time to know a person. [Prejudice Community]

This is what she said to me when Now I am 24. I find it hilarious as I was born normal, eat the same food like she gave my sister and She finds me weird in a way. May be I am westernize in Mentality.

Out of Curiosity I have asked Mum how about me marrying Latinos, Westerners she then say er mm... I STILL PREFER SAME RACE. Whoa...

With the answer, I sat down and start thinking to myself, very well same race easier to have chemistry? I Was once in this same race relationship, trust me it was way much more worse than the others that I have. Er mm I proof to myself that this statement cannot be function.

So finally when I came across books of Joy Chen, I realize something in the book which i do not have and the people that Attracted to me was GAME BOYS if not MENs which are sick and insincere. Is about the confidence and stability in terms of financial stability that guys will feel secure to date you because the material world today are driving people mad. Guys knows that if you are secure in terms of monetary, definitely they will have more guts to date you because they do not need to worry about Buying the Prada and Gucci that you have aimed a Boyfriend would buy. Instead, the relationship will have more on a focus point where companionship and chemistry that needs to work on. And When you have the confidence in financial terms, there is nothing much to worry, I think because of the Good Vibes , you then attract LOTS more good MEN and the Gentlemen that we always wanted and looking for.

Besides, 24 and when I am off to work, my life is 6 years to 30 which means I NEED to get Married?

I used to think back then, why guys like this, am I not good enough? you know that guy, he is m heart and soul. bla bla bla.... To a point, I come to realize, Being single enables me to dates as many as I want, to date 4 person in a go, and to have more different kind of experience in relationship and that make me even know more what I want in life. I can travel, I can meet so many different people across the world.

To single sisters out there, You are not alone who felt this, is just that I realize it now rather than getting into pressure of getting married and regret later. A reminder that HATCH into my Head: NEVER SETTLE FOR MR. WRONG